Marriage Ceremony Officiant and Wedding Pastor Tom F. Hamel

Serving West Michigan Since 2005​​

It 's Your Wedding

and it should be

exactly what you want it to be 




IT'S REALLY ALL ABOUT YOU

An important role of the marriage officiant is to give you guidance in crafting your wedding ceremony to your liking.  Marriage ceremonies often follow a predetermined format., but that doesn't mean they can't reflect your personality, values or faith.  Your family and friends can be included too.  I offer advice based on decades of professional experience and over 850 marriages and together we create a memorable marriage ceremony.  To assist you with designing your wedding ceremony by providing a simple tool for that is easy to use and gives you freedom to modify your ceremony as much or as little as you want.  


LET'S TALK ABOUT SOME ESSENTIALS

Generally speaking, there are some key elements that are included in most marriage ceremonies.  GREETING your guests is important and helps them feel welcome,  ENCOURAGEMENT  is shared with the couple and is meant to uplift and give them hope for the new life they will now share.  VOWS or promises are made by the bride to the groom and from the groom to the bride.  This is a really important moment.  RINGS  are often exchanged as an outward sign of the inward act of  fidelity.  A visible  reminder of the commitment being made.  The PRONOUNCEMENT OF MARRIAGE  is what everyone is waiting for and then the KISS seals it.  Proclaiming their love, the newly married couple exits to the cheer of their guests.


FEEL FREE TO ADD OTHER FUN THINGS

The essentials are key to a meaningful and complete ceremony; however, you may want to consider adding other meaningful elements.  For example, a unity candle is a tried and true tradition for many ceremonies.  But there is no need to be limited to this.  Personalize your ceremony any number of different ways.   For more ideas check out this page.


WHAT CAN YOU EXPECT FROM ME

The day of your ceremony, I arrive and speak with the bride and groom to check on any last minute questions that haven't been answered in our previous conversations.  I check the marriage license to ensure that everything is in order. I introduce myself to parents and grandparents if we have not already met.  I am dressed in a formal black suit, white shirt and conservative tie.  I do not wear any color that will distract from your color scheme. My delivery style is relaxed and friendly.  My goal is to keep the focus on the couple.  My public speaking experience is evident in a well paced, clear delivery.  I rarely read any of my material which assures that eye contact is made with you and your guests.  This creates a conversational feel.  At an appropriate time after the ceremony, I complete the requirements for the marriage license and say goodbye.  You receive some final communication from me the following week after I have fulfilled my obligations with the marriage license.


THE GOAL

A stress-free marriage ceremony that is professionally crafted, memorable, intimate and joyful.